Patanjali's yoga sutras

The obstacles to samadhi

may lie dormant,

but they can multiply like a weed

creeping silently into your garden. The obstacles to samadhi

may appear suddenly one morning,

choking your flowers

and burrowing deep into the soil. Ignorance allows them to flourish.

Alberto Villoldo

Osho: Socrates was one of the greatest suffering husbands ever born. His wife, Xanthippe, was one of the most dangerous of women. Women are dangerous, but she was the most dangerous woman. She would beat Socrates. Once she poured the whole teapot on his head. Half his face remained burned for his whole life. To ask such a man what to do!… One young man asked, ‘Should I get married or not?’ Of course, he expected that Socrates would say, ‘No’ — he had suffered so much for it. But he said, ‘Yes, you should get married.’ The young man said, ‘But how can you say that? I have heard so many rumors about you and your wife.’ He said, ‘Yes, I say to you that you should get married. If you get a good wife you will be happy, and through happiness, many things grow because happiness is natural. If you get a bad wife, then non-attachment, renunciation will grow. You will become a great philosopher like me. In either case, you will have profited. When you come to ask me whether to get married or not, the idea to marry is in you, otherwise, why should you come to me?’

I told this young man, ‘You have come to ask me. That shows that Vivekananda has not been enough; still, your nature persists. You should get married. Suffer it, enjoy it, the pain and the pleasure. Move through both and become mature through experience. Once you become mature, not because Vivekanand or anybody else says so, but because you have become mature and ripe, the foolishness of sexuality drops; it drops. Then brahmacharya arises; the real celibacy arises, the pure celibacy arises, but that is different.’

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